thinking i should change my blog back to dumbkunts lol

Looking forward to another Mexico vacation. Ahhhhhh. LML

wannabee

Chik-fil-a controversy

Potty training tips

Whats with lazy selfish mothers these days? They have all this time to paint their nails twice a day but at 2 their kids can't talk, they still suck on pacifiers and they still don't know how to use the toilet. I have always said that if you can teach a dog or cat to crap in one spot you can teach a human brain to not shit their pants. But it requires work, a lot easier to change diapers i guess. Mine were potty trained at 18 and 17 months respectively. It would probably be too much work for these mothers to get their asses off their computers and talk to their kids so they can learn to talk. Or read and write. Yuck.

The question of the day."Is she stupid, or just dumb?"

"QandA; Where do you see yourself living in five years? Santa Ynez."  Hm.

http://www.nls.org/benefits/fraud.htm

Work. Work.

 Great song.....workin at the carwash rose royce

http://www.babymed.com/gettting-pregnant-during-menopause

These things crack me up

Another lovely weekend...had so much fun. It has been so nice having weekends off!  I am glad my fiancee doesn't have any outstanding debt to anyone that I have to work to pay. That would suck. Hoping the weather will get nice soon so we can spend more time at the lake. Can't believe it's June already.

Out with the old, in with the new! Just got back from a trip to the dump, doing some redecorating.....feels good!

Fantasy: "He's going to take me places."
Reality: Camping.

still laughing about the $15 check. roflmao

This could be helpful.

  "the book "mentalizing" should be required reading for everybody on earth.
it's like a brain owners manual." 
http://narcissisticpersonalitydisoderfamilyforum.yuku.com/topic/583/a-book-that-helped-recovery#.T7ErH8VOTAk

Hi,
I thought I would post about a book that helped us greatly here at our house recover from a life of abuse from a narcissistic family.
My wife began suffering panic attacks and generalized anxiety. her whole family was a bizarre pit of NPD and her father had post traumatic stress disorder from war.

the book is "Mentalizing in clinical practice" by Jon G Allen et all

the theory in the book is SO helpfull it has changed our lives.
basically its about getting your feelings out of the pre thinking part of your brain and up into your frontal cortex for proper processing.
It explains how disconnected parenting and the way narcissists project onto children therefore not really seeing who the child is
leaves you without this ability to "mentalize" properly.
the mentalizing idea comes out of attachment theory.
The whole thing dovetails really well with Dialectical behavior therapy as well.

these two therapiies are for borderline personality disorder which some people say is a form of PTSD.
mild borderline type problems seems to describe my wifes problems to a tea.

thankfully my wife was the youngest and got ignored as an infant so she was traumatized but not turned into a narcissist herself.
as she got older she became the family joke (because she was normal and empathetic) and served as sort of the families psychic trash bin for their projections.

narcissists because they have to feel perfect have to project negative things about themselves onto others.

the book explains how all these projections get processed as sort of alien parts of the self.
these alien parts of the self then need to be externalized. resulting in a sort of disorganized sense of self.

funny what people think is a good picture of themselves lol  old lady mouth

Instagram perfect for narcissists

"
Narcissist Narcissism: This is perhaps the most confounding of all the narcissists—he seems to be in love with himself…doing anything. He is hard to spot. But, his photos routinely lack artistic merits. Usually it’s just him standing in a mirror—exemplifying whatever he finds momentarily fascinating. Like drinking a 40-ounce Big Gulp. Comparing his new hair to a photo of an old haircut. "


Spot on!! Instagram is perfect for the narcissist who never gets enough of pictures of himself/herself and thinks everyone is dying to see them. Oh and pictures of what they're eating.(I'd stay away from the Costco carrot cupcakes...poolside pics be no bueno.)  And thinks people care when they 'need a nap" or are "going to bed".

lololol

 It's so disgusting when men don't pay their child support and then run off and make more kids and the new woman (would say wife but sometimes men don't want to marry the mistress) discourages the man from paying for his kids so she can spend his money on herself. So selfish. I feel sorry for the women who have to struggle without child support. I was lucky enough to get more than 4 times what some other women get in child support and with providing for my children and their future it still doesn't seem like enough.

Then there are those women who spend the child support on themselves and their vain needs, and dress their small kids in their own (ugly) adult clothes they no longer want and don't buy them clothes and shoes. Absolutely disgusting.




Losers who don't pay child support

That problem is, sadly, a male one.
Overwhelmingly, it is men who abuse the child support system. It's men who refuse to pay child support, even when knowing full well that the child is their responsibility; indeed, even when they've abandoned their children for another set of kids.
According to the most recent data, 92 per cent of the parents who owe child support are men, and together they owe something like $900 million.

ageing

In your thirties the signs of ageing start to become apparent,

hahahaha funny when someone screws up their eye makeup so bad it looks like they have two black eyes, one bigger than the other. too funny

Just got done looking at some photos. Why is it that all I can think about is possums? lol