Watched some old videos of my kids when they were little so cute! So I am looking through other stuff and found Tyler's journal...at 16 months he knew over 150 words spoke sentences and could count to 10. Then I thought about other kids I see about this age who don't seem to be able to talk at all and I think it's probably because they don't get any attention.

amazing what can happen when you work with a child....kid learns his sight words!

How can you be engaged to a married man?

How can you be engaged to a married man?

http://homewreckinghoes.webs.com/thewhores.htm

Michael Jackson--Working Day and Night

internet addiction

Seeking information, community, and escape, new moms are spending more and more time on the web. How much is too much?


http://www.cnn.com/2011/US/01/26/florida.grading.parents/index.html

"I think a lot of parents understand that is something that is critical," she said. "On the other hand, you have some parents that don't realize they are not providing the needs."

http://www.hfrp.org/family-involvement/publications-resources/approaches-to-parental-involvement-for-improving-the-academic-performance-of-elementary-school-children-in-grades-k-6
This report summarizes the most dependable evidence on the effect of parental involvement intervention programs for improving the academic performance of elementary school-age children. The authors show that parent involvement has a positive and significant effect on children's overall academic performance.¹

http://www.therepublic.com/view/story/3be60a9b8cbd4b508a3d7d56a82a29ac/ID--Deadbeat-Dad-Idaho/

Deadbeat dad owes $116K in unpaid child support, pleads guilty to federal felony

great book

http://www.amazon.com/Splitting-Protecting-Borderline-Narcissistic-Personality/dp/1608820254/ref=pd_sim_b_2

trust

It must be hard to be with someone you can't trust. Someone who cheated on you. I mean think about it, how do you know what they are doing while you are away from the house? While the cat's away, the mouse will play-isn't that the saying? Even people who have kids, if they aren't old enough to talk they can't say anything. I know a woman who took her baby with her when she was cheating (with a man who was cheating on his wife). Gross, I know, but people do it.

Nowadays with the internet, it's so easy for cheaters to hook up too.

helpful links

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_projection

love these

I can't imagine living a life where all you have left is your  trip to the post office to give you a reason to get out of bed in the morning. Pretty pathetic. Or when you hurt your children to get back at someone. What kind of people do that?

On the other hand, I am looking forward to a day filled with tanning, shopping for clothes, pedicure, grocery shopping (with real money), eating out, planning my next vacation (my future husband is going to take me places!...oh heck he already has.), and meeting with the decorator to re-do the (what's a good adjective here?) decor in my soon to be new 2800+sf  house.

And of course the wedding planning. Nothing shows how much a man loves you than when he wants to marry you. On the other hand, when a relationship is constantly on the rocks and you have to start reading relationship books....well, all the books in the world can't fix dysfunction.

hits but no followers...

Lots of hits on my blog but no followers. When I get to one follower we will have a giveaway. I will give away an old book I have lying around the house.

I love my life! No buts! Finally i have everything the way i want it. Looking forward to building a bigger house and having us all under one roof, planning a wedding, moving forward without any baggage.

now might be the time to get off the internet and start teaching your kid his letter sounds before he has to repeat kindergarten cause his mom can't stop pinning the life she wishes she had onto little cyber cork boards.

ahhhhhh

finally. i get what i have been wanting. silence. what sofia wants sofia gets!

True Colors

It must be hard having to try to pretend you are things you are not. Especially when your true colors keep coming out. Like what kind of person would say this about an allergy that could kill a child?   "I understand the inconvenience of xx having peanuts the other night but it certainly isn't my concern as my children are not allergic to them and that it is not my job to manage Sofia's daughter's allergies."


No matter what image you create for yourself on the internet, your actions and words give you away. It must be tough having to fake it all the time. Must be very stressful.

Still laughing about the size 13 double wide ass  butch dike having something to say about what I look like. rofl

english lesson for the day

http://www.dailywritingtips.com/poring-over-pore-and-pour/

Some confusion appears to exist regarding the use of pour and pore.

Charlie complains that he has to pour through stacks of badly-written letters to the editor every day.

In this context the word should be pore. The usual idiom is “to pore over.” Apparently the preposition “through” has entered into use, as in the above quotation, and as in this headline in the New York Times:

Teachers Pore Through Stacks Of Possibilities

The verb pore, with the meaning “examine closely,” may derive from two Old English words, a verb, spyrian, meaning “to investigate, examine,” and a noun, spor, meaning “a trace, vestige.”

eating and kids

It's a shame when I see kids become overweight because their parents have eating issues of their own or they spend hours baking cupcakes and making jello for their kids to eat. When the kid gets an inner tube maybe that's a clue you ought to stop feeding them crap.

behavior

Respect and forgiveness are earned. Some people think these things are due to them when they have done nothing to earn them. For example, if you did something awful to someone and their children, and continue to do awful things, you can't expect to be "best of friends". And yes, when you cheat in a marriage you are cheating on your children too. It amazes me when people expect to be treated kindly by someone when they continue to stick a knife in the person's back, for example continuously taking them to court and calling them a bad father and trying to take away custody when in fact they are one of the best fathers I know. Some people are just manipulative, deceptive liars. At some point the people in their lives will see through them, and are no longer "putty in their hands". The control freak can no longer control the other person and it bothers them.

Sometimes these same people are egocentric, and think everything is about them. They think that the person exercising their free will means that they are somehow "can't let go" of them or their unhealthy relationship, or that they aren't over that person. I know a woman like this. It would be funny if it wasn't so sad. They interpret normal behavior as being indicative of some lingering affection. Nothing could be further from the truth. Once a person has seen what it's like to be in an honest loving relationship they only feel disgust when they look at the way they were lied to and manipulated in previous relationships.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toodles

kids

I love my kids. I am a great mother. It's that simple. I know there are other people who aren't. They project themselves to the world like they are, but it's all for show. Mommie Dearest comes to mind. Some women are more concerned with the world's view of them, and how they look to other women. I have never cared. My kids are awesome. Both of them could read and write at age three. When Tyler went to kindergarten, the teacher had HIM read the books to the other kids so she had time to do other things and the kids loved it. He was that good of a reader. Did it happen by accident? No. I spent time teaching him his letters and the sounds they make. He didn't go to preschool. Why would I pay money to have someone do a job I could do as good or better? It's not rocket science. I think its a shame when kids go into kindergarten and they still don't know the sounds the letters make. Especially when they have a parent at home.

But some parents are happy just sticking their kid in front of the TV while they play on the internet or do whatever, instead of taking the time to teach their kids. Same goes for things like potty training. Both my kids were potty trained by 18 months. Others let their kids sit in poop until they are three. I can't figure that one out. If I can teach a dog with a brain smaller than my fist to poop outside, I can teach a human to use the toilet.

When my kids were both in elementary school, their daycare teacher came into my restaurant for lunch. He said "You know what? Your kids have the best morals and values of any kids I have ever had. They always do the right thing." This is because I taught my children those values. Not to lie. Note to cheat. Not to steal. The values they learned by example. Not "do as I say, not as I do" rules. My kids don't do those things. They never lie. I think some people are just born liars but I think alot of it is learned behavior as well.

I taught them about giving. For over 5 years when they were little I delivered Meals on Wheels with them. They learned a valuable lesson about giving. You can talk all you want about things, but children learn by actions. They used to argue over who got to take the meal up to the door. They still remember our clients.

When my kids were little I used to wonder what they'd be like when they were older. Now I know. They have both grown into the people I would have wanted them to be. Honor roll, straight A's, honest, caring, giving, hard working. It's not easy making honor roll in Junior High, and Tyler's about to learn how hard it is in high school. Kayleigh is involved in every school activity there is, math superbowl, you name it she does it. Her guitar teacher gushes about her talent. Wow. Her guitar teacher told her she's lucky that I am her mom, that many kids' talent goes unrecognized.

I have always helped my children pursue their interests. Some parents don't. Some parents are selfish and all about themselves. They would rather their children don't do any activities, cause it means they have to DO stuff. Such a shame. Of course then there are the parents who finally figure out they can get recognition this way, then they do a 360.

My children are both of above average intelligence. Tyler has been labeled as "gifted". Not that it matters, but I am sure it helped them in their school careers. Not all children will be able to read and write by age three. But by Kindergarten, all kids should know the sounds the letters make. If they don't, it means they haven't had anyone spend the time it takes to teach them something that simple.

Then there is the emotional damage some parents do to their children. Dragging their kids into stuff, poisoning them against people. I am divorced. My ex has had girlfriends. I encourage the relttionship. If this woman is spending time with my kids, I want to have a good relationship with her and I want her to like my kids. Seems pretty simple. Everything has always been great. My ex has good relationships with my boyfriends. This is the way it should be. When it's not, it's cause there's one common denominator.

Enough rambling to myself for the day. I changed the title of the blog because I realized people I know might find it somehow.

abusing the system

I think it sucks that people lie and cheat in order to use my taxpayer money. Like those who lie to get welfare or medi-cal. With any luck those people will be caught and prosecuted. Tired of freeloaders!!

keep checking!

Be sure to check back daily! Today I am going to talk about drama. I have always avoided drama until it came into my life. I tried to avoid it, but Drama needs attention. Constant attention. And arguments. You've seen those women, out in public places fighting with their men. A dramatic exit by the boyfriend... You know the deal. Then they get back together. Then fight again. And again. What's up with that?

Hoping to get more followers in the future, my blog is hard to find so you'd really have to be searching for it to find it. 

welcome

Welcome to my world!